One of the most searched question related to mindfulness is “How to be mindful?”
We often hear that it takes a long time to learn mindfulness through practice. While it’s true that mindfulness training helps us be more present, we can also be instantly mindful by reminding ourselves that there will come a last time for everything we do. Here’s how.
Do you ever think about the things you can no longer do or haven’t done in ages? Like that close friend you used to talk to every day, but it’s been 5 years since your last conversation. If you had known it’d be the last time you’re talking to him, would you have appreciated the conversation more?
Everything you experience has a last time, even the ordinary stuff we overlook. From reading bedtime stories to your child to playing cards with your parents.
Maybe you’re in the thick of sleepless nights with a newborn. It can be tough, but remember, there will be the last time your baby wakes you up. Knowing this can change how you perceive the present, making you appreciate even the challenging moments and seeing them in a whole new light. You might even miss them when they’re gone.
Every moment holds some level of preciousness, even the seemingly mundane tasks and interactions, if only we pay closer attention.
Here’s how you can seamlessly incorporate this tool into your daily life, fostering mindfulness and allowing yourself more frequent breaks from concerns about the future and the discomfort of memories.
1. Catch Yourself.
The first step to becoming more mindful is to catch yourself when you are not being mindful.
For example, when you feel bored during your daily commute, while waiting in a queue, or finding yourself disinterested in a conversation.
2. Ask Yourself.
Now, ask yourself, “What if this is my last time in this situation?”
Reflect on your own experiences, including hobbies or activities you used to cherish but haven’t engaged in for years.
Maybe it’s been over a decade since you last hit the slopes. Will you ever ski again? When was the last time you went for a swim with Angelina? Do you think you’ll have the opportunity to swim with her again?
3. Observe With a New Perspective.
Now, try observing the same seemingly “boring” situation with a fresh perspective and see if you notice things differently.
I’ve started reminding myself of this more often, to stay calm, be more mindful, and truly engage with the moments I take for granted. It makes me more intentional with my words and actions.
So, let’s remind ourselves that there’s a last time for every activity and make the most of it while we can.
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